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Friday, August 3, 2012

The Cab Ride by Kent Nerburn

I came across this lovely and inspiring story today whilst browsing through the internet and I just wanted to share it...

The Cab Ride by Kent Nerburn

There was a time in my life twenty years ago when I was driving a cab for a living. It was a cowboy's life, a gambler's life, a life for someone who wanted no boss, constant movement and the thrill of a dice roll every time a new passenger got into the cab. 

What I didn't count on when I took the job was that it was also a ministry. Because I drove the night shift, my cab became a rolling confessional. Passengers would climb in, sit behind me in total anonymity and tell me of their lives.

We were like strangers on a train, the passengers and I, hurtling through the night, revealing intimacies we would never have dreamed of sharing during the brighter light of day. I encountered people whose lives amazed me, ennobled me, made me laugh and made me weep. And none of those lives touched me more than that of a woman I picked up late on a warm August night. 

I was responding to a call from a small brick fourplex in a quiet part of town. I assumed I was being sent to pick up some partiers, or someone who had just had a fight with a lover, or someone going off to an early shift at some factory for the industrial part of town. 

When I arrived at the address, the building was dark except for a single light in a ground-floor window. Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once or twice, wait a short minute, then drive away. Too many bad possibilities awaited a driver who went up to a darkened building at 2:30 in the morning.


But I had seen too many people trapped in a life of poverty who depended on the cab as their only means of transportation. Unless a situation had a real whiff of danger, I always went to the door to find the passenger. It might, I reasoned, be someone who needs my assistance. Would I not want a driver to do the same if my mother or father had called for a cab?

So I walked to the door and knocked. 

"Just a minute," answered a frail and elderly voice. I could hear the sound of something being dragged across the floor. After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman somewhere in her 80s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like you might see in a costume shop or a Goodwill store or in a 1940s movie. By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The sound had been her dragging it across the floor.

The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.


"Would you carry my bag out to the car?" she said. "I'd like a few moments alone. Then, if you could come back and help me? I'm not very strong."

I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm, and we walked slowly toward the curb. She kept thanking me for my kindness.

"It's nothing," I told her. "I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated."

"Oh, you're such a good boy," she said. Her praise and appreciation were almost embarrassing.
 

When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, then asked, "Could you drive through downtown?" 

"It's not the shortest way," I answered.

"Oh, I don't mind," she said. "I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice."

I looked in the rearview mirror. Her eyes were glistening. "I don't have any family left," she continued. "The doctor says I should go there. He says I don't have very long."
I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. "What route would you like me to go?" I asked. 

For the next two hours we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they had first been married. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl. Sometimes she would have me slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.


As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, "I'm tired. Let's go now."
We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. Without waiting for me, they opened the door and began assisting the woman. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her; perhaps she had phoned them right before we left.


I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase up to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

"How much do I owe you?" she asked, reaching into her purse.

"Nothing," I said.

"You have to make a living," she answered.

"There are other passengers," I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held on to me tightly. "You gave an old woman a little moment of joy," she said. "Thank you."

There was nothing more to say. I squeezed her hand once, then walked out into the dim morning light. Behind me, I could hear the door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.

I did not pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly, lost in thought. For the remainder of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away? What if I had been in a foul mood and had refused to engage the woman in conversation? How many other moments like that had I missed or failed to grasp?
 

We are so conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unawares. When that woman hugged me and said that I had brought her a moment of joy, it was possible to believe that I had been placed on earth for the sole purpose of providing her with that last ride.

I do not think that I have ever done anything in my life that was any more important.

From Make Me an Instrument of Your Peace: Living in the Spirit of the Prayer of St. Francis by Kent Nerburn. Published by HarperOne.

Saturday, July 14, 2012

Joined a Running Group

Today was my first day meeting with a running group. I have been meaning to join something for a while and today I actually did it rather than just think about it. Everyone seemed really easy going which was nice as I can get quite nervous meeting new people. We did 10k in 1 hr 2 mins and I was able to keep up with 2 other women who have been running with the group for a while, and managed to have a bit of a chat on the way round too. I was really pleased with how it went and really looking forward to next week now.

Monday, July 2, 2012

Brother & Sister

A lovely shot of my 2 little monkeys...

Some Stuff from the Past Week

On Wednesday I finally took Jack to get his hair cut, which was well overdue. His last cut was in November. He was very good better than I thought he would be. This is only his second ever haircut. The first time we took him to a childrens salon, the kind that has the cars as seats and showing cartoons to distract the little ones, which was great, but unfortunately the hair cut wasn’t great (far too short!!) and it was extremely overpriced. So I took him to a normal barbers and he was such a good boy, I was so proud of him.  Although the haircut was too short at the front again.. But what can you do it will grow back.. Here’s before and after photos (lol his hair was ridiculously long)…


Before
After




Jack said his 1st sentence (longer than 2 words) on Thursday, he was watching Curious George and repeated one of the lines from the program “is that a tree”. Yes random I know but great, I had him repeat it about 100 times after that but sure when his Daddy came home from work he wouldn’t say it, typical!!! :-)

Lucy has been really grisly this week and very clingy, her little gums have been driving her mad poor little lady and yesterday we finally got a glimpse of her 1st little tooth just peeking through her gum.

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Starting A Course !!! - but leaving the children :-(

Well I’m super excited and a wee bit anxious. I have been looking into going back to college to do a full-time course. I’m hoping to get onto a Childcare course, but there’s a possibility I might not be able to get on that course this September in which case I could be offered a Digital Media course and then I will have the option to do the childcare course the following year.  If I have to do the Digital Media Course first it wouldn’t be a bad thing,  I would actually find it interesting as it involves digital photography, desktop publishing and website design, which would definitely be beneficial in the world of Blogging. :-)

 After spending the last 2 ½ years at home and having the two babies and spending all day every day with the two little ones, they will now be going into a crèche for 6 ½ hrs a day :-Z. I am not too worried about Jack I think he will love it and I think it will do him good to be around other children as he gets bored easily at home. Although, we have spent almost every day together for the last 2 ½ years and we are both so use to being with each other every day, I do worry how this huge change will effect him (and me) and our relationship.  And then the thought of leaving my little lady she still seems soooo small.  When I start the course she will be almost a year old. It’s just going to be a huge change and I am definitely feeling quite anxious about being away from the two kiddies for most of the day.

I know people do this all the time, they have to go back to work etc.. and I know I need to do this to help me get some of my identity back and enable me to work in a job that I want to work in and hopefully be able to work around the children and not the other way round. It will also do me good to be around other adults, I’m getting to the point where I’m forgetting  how to have an adult conversation or talk about anything else but the children.. I suppose the other good thing is the course is 9.30 – 4.30 and it runs in the school terms so I will get time off in the school holidays and the course is only September to May . I know it’s something I have to do it just feels a little daunting  being away from the children. Has anyone else gone through similar experience where they have had to return to work or study full-time after being at home with the children full-time for a long amount of time.

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Summer Bucket List


Well it was a lovely day here in Dublin yesterday. I was hoping it might be the beginning of our summer, but I have been told the next couple of days is going to be raining, boo hoo, so sick of this rain!! I’m really looking forward to doing some fun things with Jack this summer now he’s 2 ½ he's beginning to have more of an interest in things.

Here's my list of what I hope to do this summer...

I will add to this when I can think of more things

Go to Dublin Zoo
Have a picnic in Phoenix Park
Go to Pirate Village Dundrum
Go to Beach if the weather gets warm enough
Have a BBQ
Go to a petting farm
Go swimming
Farmleigh Farmers Market
Go to an outdoor movie
Sign up for another run.
Go to a fair
Go to Donegal (Never been there, it is supposed to be beautiful)
Tayto Park
Visit family in the UK
Join a running club/group
Bring Jack to see the steam trains.
Go puddle jumping on a rainy day.
Get Jack on a bouncy castle.
Go to an outdoor gig.
Fly a kite
Make an obstacle course in the back garden.
Go to some family friendly festivals around Ireland. i.e.
Bray Summerfest 6th July – 6th August, Ballinamore Family Festival 12-19th August,  Waterford Spraoi  3rd-5th Aug, Waterford Harvest fest 10-16 Sept, Galway Oyster Fest 28th-30th Sept